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...On the Death Penalty
"The purpose of Buddhism is to bring out the Buddha nature that all people inherently possess, to awaken people to it and enable them to attain Buddhahood. Moreover, the lotus sutra does not allow for any discrimination; all people are equally entitled to salvation" (Ikeda, 2012).
Let's talk about Pedophiles. What does the word Pedophile means? The etymology of this word is the following: Circa, 1900-1910 It derives from the Greek word pais generally known as paidos. Pedos means Child, and philos means loving, as in Pedophilos.
Pedophilia is applied to most adults, men and women, who sexually molest children are considered to have pedophilia, a mental disorder described by the American Psychiatric Association's, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition (DSM-IV). An adult who engages in sexual activity with a child is performing a criminal and immoral act which never can be considered normal or socially acceptable behavior. Pedophilia is categorized in the DSM-IV as one of the several paraphilia mental disorders. The essential features of paraphilia ("sexual deviation") are recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors that generally involve nonhuman subjects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner, or children or other non-consenting persons.
Now that we know the etymology and the definition of the word, let's talk about the social construction of a pedophile.
The Social Construction of a Pedophile:
Seventh year old graders arrive at school everyday, with different faces, yet the same developmental stages. Adolescent development and behavior has been the theoretical landmark of Erickson's developmental stages (Erickson, 1980). Taking into account the theoretical influence of Freud's developmental stages (Freud, 1940), and Piaget (Piaget, 1975), we can easily use them as a map in the explanation of how a pedophile is socially constructed.
Let's go back to the seventh graders, shall we? There you have a school full of raging adolescents, confused, curious, desperate, a lot of them with different social, emotional, intelligent, and developmental backgrounds. Let's take one group of seventh graders from their Junior High School. What is the first thing that you see you walk inside of their classroom? The first thing that we see is the diversity, the race, skin color, therefore the physical appearance.
Once in the classroom, who is the person with authority and control? Who is the ruler of the classroom realm? Who is the mentor? Who is the master? The Teacher.
The Teacher figure, whether you want to accept it or not, is one of the most influential force in the life of students. In this crucial period, this is of great importance. Let's take a Mathematics' Male teacher for example. A 35 year old mature male, who teaches Arithmetic to these seven graders, and engages in sexual conduct with his young female students (ranging from ages 11 to 13).
He was perceived as a cool guy, a nice teacher, who almost never gave class, always joking around in the classroom. The male students wanted to be him, as cool as him. The female students thought he was so dreamy. Lizalia was her name, they called her Lissy. A blonde 7th grader, with green eyes and too much black eyeliner for her own good. She always wore red lipstick and her eyes were always masked behind the damned thick rimmed black eyeliner.
But he...he was like a damned sausage link. He was short, and had a beer belly, short arms and legs, and a mole in his face, in his left cheek. Why did the students thought he was so cool?
Manipulation is the answer. He knew how to control them and manipulate them. The first thing that he did, and always did, was to project himself as he wanted them to see him. "I only give you what you need, I only let you see what I want you to believe"; this was his motto, sang out loud in class, written on the blackboard, so revealing and yet misunderstood by the children, for none of them asked the meaning of that quote, not even an explanation.
Day by day Lissie bragged about her sexual encounters with the math teacher. The other girls listened, they were curious, and interested, because they wanted to experiment, they wanted to know how it felt. Lissy rounded them up for him. Instead of going to the slumber party their parents had agreed upon, they ended at the math teacher's house having a party of their own. The math teacher would also invite other male students, and other men and women from outside of town. To the students this was a model, a mentor, a master, and these activities would continue to take place until he retired.
The social construction of this pedophile lies in his role as a teacher. The institution of education is the most powerful institution, that has shaped society as a whole since children are bread, born, raised. The institution of education is a social institution that regulates the behavior of children for the sole purpose of creating order and ultimately control them for the benefit of a determined society.
The Math teacher was socially constructed by the Educational Institution in the same manner that he had been instructing his own students. By using pedagogy, psychology, sociology, sexuality, and many other educational influences provided by the Social Institution of Education, he had mastered the art of captivating and manipulating a specific crowd: Junior High school Student's (Ages 11 to 16). He had the total attention of the students for 2 hours everyday, 5 days a week for three years of their life. It was during those 2 hours that he had the opportunity to bend and shape their minds as he wanted. What he wanted was: to fulfill his sexual needs, desires and paraphilia's, and is exactly what he did.
Now, what about the students? Lizzie had gotten pregnant during the Christmas break and had dropped out of the seventh grade, a year later, there were rumors spreading around that she had A.I.D.S. and was never seen again. Before her disappearance Lizzie had kept going to the math teacher house parties, until the moment she had vanished.
The Math Teacher: The Social Construction of a Pedophile
The Math teacher, 35 years old, was single and lived in a 4 bedroom house in La Joya, a secluded neighborhood, with sufficient space between every land property. The space was so sufficient that not one neighbor ever suspected there were house parties every weekend and the comings and goings during the week, of mostly 7th graders (ages 11-12). He did send his mother to a convalescent home for seniors in the next town, therefore he lived at his mother's house. He had come out of college, straight back home, to work at the school which he attended during the seventh grade. He had tasted independence from the claws of his mother, and wanted desperately to feel it again once more. His mother was on his way, and he truly took care of everything.
A son of an alcoholic womanizer town mechanic father, and a welfare secretary/social worker mother, he was an only child, often mirroring his father's behavior around young 7 to 12 year old girls. "His cousins, his father would say, were beautiful and precious" It was his duty to admire them, protect them and love them unconditionally. An alcoholic delirious father was a handful for the whole family, especially his perfectionist mother. In one of many of a family gatherings, his father had gotten drunk in a game of wife swap. They had arrived with the kids: brothers, sisters, and friends. The kids were in their own area, watching movies, playing in the company of their older siblings, while their parents had their own area. As soon and the parents arrived, they had to deposit their car keys in a crystal bowl. At the end of the party, each person had to reach into the bowl of car keys and leave with the owner. It wasn't and option, it was mandatory. His father had done this many times before, his mother had participated along with him. Some of the women had gotten in his car along with their children, because they had to be driven back home. Along the way the children would sleep in the backseat innocently, oblivious to the unexpected traumatic event. They would be put to their beds, except for those who were worthy enough of his admiration, protection, and love.
To those, he would introduce them to his "loving" ways. Oddly enough these children would always follow him, cherish him and adore him, even more so than his own family. His wife was mistreated, abused, denigrated, pissed upon, cheated on, raped upon, by him, and ultimately herself, ended up a widow that last key exchange party. His father had gone with a woman much younger than him and with a pair of exotic long dark haired, dark eyes, fair skin, 6 year old twins. It was the first party this single mother had attended, and she had to leave with his father. They had arrived there earlier, and when his father, appeared, the twins immediately jumped on top of his lap, begging to be admired, protected, and loved by him. His father was enjoying the moment, and to the common eye, he even appeared as a good man, a good father, a good husband, a good community leader. His drunkenness was hidden behind a masquerade outside of the home, yet at home, he was a sociopath drunken alcoholic. People loved him, everyone knew him, and listened to what he had to say. "I tell you what you want to hear, and I give you what you think you want", this was his motto, carved into this math teacher's mind. This was his developmental stage, he was assimilating, accommodating, and going through different levels of learning, by doing, by observing, and by modeling this motto.
That night during the party he had noticed how his father operated, and he was jealous of him, for he wanted the attention of his cousins, but most of all, he wanted to compete for his father's attention, and acceptance (he wanted to be his father), and he hated him as well. He wanted to be that side of his father: the public side, the girl-loving side, not the husband, and certainly, not the father. Deep in his mind he knew that he would never marry a woman, nor he wanted to care for children. That was the last night he an his mother saw his father alive. He saw them all riding in the front seat of the car. The twins in the middle of them, the four of them all huddled up for no reason.
Before they had gone, the twins were playing with him. He was admiring, protecting, and loving them, the three mottos that his father had installed upon him. His father gave him a look of wonder and praise, for the first time in his life he was doing things right -he thought- "finally he's going to see what I'm capable of". His father bid him farewell with heavy approval, leaving him fully satisfied; and as he saw his father leave, he felt that the end was near, the twins eyes, dark and big revealed it to him.
The black sunshine mustang was riding in full throttle, its fluorescent eyes illuminating the dark road. The sound of the engine provided vibrating stimuli to the passengers, still all huddled up, closer than ever before. The dark haired twins wrapped themselves around the math teacher's father. His waist was occupied by the twins, their eyes now darker than ever before hypnotized him. He forgot about his destination, he forgot about his destiny. When the woman saw a bit of confusion in his eyes, she said gently: "drive away, let the road be your guide". He saw an endless road, never ending, never disparaging, always to be driven by him, restless, in an insomniac coma. He disappeared into a road of nothingness, bitterly facing his end in the land of the living, entering another stratosphere of delusions that awaited him. In four lower words he dwelled from that moment onward: Hell, Animality, Hunger and Anger, all forever encompassing, enveloping him, indubitably making him feel everything his victims felt.
The Math teacher was more than happy to know about his father's disappearance. His mother seemed more at ease, she was free of his alcoholism, sadism and vices. She could save more money, and the money that she had hidden over the years was used towards his college tuition. After his father's disappearance his mother never remarried, she was ill most of the time, but kept on working until her retirement. He learned after his college graduation that his mother had dementia due to syphilis. This prompted him to take extreme measures: he arranged for her to vacate her home and live in a convalescent home for seniors until her last days.
He was free again from her fully, he was free to pursue any pleasures he deemed fit. He remembered during his college years how many girls he had savored, all of them much younger than him. His methods were to cruise around high schools and junior high schools outside of his living area. He always had nice automobiles, these were crucial for the first stage: impressing and image of coolness upon young girls. He staked the schools, he stalked the girls, observed and analyzed their behavior in search for a troubled teen, preferably with low self esteem, attractive and most of all, a virgin. He made exceptions all the time, he had to, a virgin teenage girl was hard to find. His exceptions were extreme, for he took upon himself to oblige the girls to test themselves for STD's, and other diseases. He wanted to keep himself clean, and that, he did very well. He always thought he was performing a public duty, breaking girls, teaching them how to be women, revealing the dark secrets that they desperately desired, the dark secrets he need to press upon them.
During his college years he had many classmates, yet he never engaged in a relationship with any college women. He portrayed an image of academic excellence, always using that as an excuse for not having a "girlfriend". He kept his secret safe, no one knew his sexual paraphilia's.
Looking back upon the story of his life, he felt complete, accomplished and with a great sense of peace. He is in his comfort zone, and no one will escape his twisting desires.
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...On the Death Penalty
"The purpose of Buddhism is to bring out the Buddha nature that all people inherently possess, to awaken people to it and enable them to attain Buddhahood. Moreover, the lotus sutra does not allow for any discrimination; all people are equally entitled to salvation" (Ikeda, 2012).
Let's talk about Pedophiles. What does the word Pedophile means? The etymology of this word is the following: Circa, 1900-1910 It derives from the Greek word pais generally known as paidos. Pedos means Child, and philos means loving, as in Pedophilos.
Pedophilia is applied to most adults, men and women, who sexually molest children are considered to have pedophilia, a mental disorder described by the American Psychiatric Association's, Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders Fourth Edition (DSM-IV). An adult who engages in sexual activity with a child is performing a criminal and immoral act which never can be considered normal or socially acceptable behavior. Pedophilia is categorized in the DSM-IV as one of the several paraphilia mental disorders. The essential features of paraphilia ("sexual deviation") are recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors that generally involve nonhuman subjects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one's partner, or children or other non-consenting persons.
Now that we know the etymology and the definition of the word, let's talk about the social construction of a pedophile.
The Social Construction of a Pedophile:
Seventh year old graders arrive at school everyday, with different faces, yet the same developmental stages. Adolescent development and behavior has been the theoretical landmark of Erickson's developmental stages (Erickson, 1980). Taking into account the theoretical influence of Freud's developmental stages (Freud, 1940), and Piaget (Piaget, 1975), we can easily use them as a map in the explanation of how a pedophile is socially constructed.
Let's go back to the seventh graders, shall we? There you have a school full of raging adolescents, confused, curious, desperate, a lot of them with different social, emotional, intelligent, and developmental backgrounds. Let's take one group of seventh graders from their Junior High School. What is the first thing that you see you walk inside of their classroom? The first thing that we see is the diversity, the race, skin color, therefore the physical appearance.
Once in the classroom, who is the person with authority and control? Who is the ruler of the classroom realm? Who is the mentor? Who is the master? The Teacher.
The Teacher figure, whether you want to accept it or not, is one of the most influential force in the life of students. In this crucial period, this is of great importance. Let's take a Mathematics' Male teacher for example. A 35 year old mature male, who teaches Arithmetic to these seven graders, and engages in sexual conduct with his young female students (ranging from ages 11 to 13).
He was perceived as a cool guy, a nice teacher, who almost never gave class, always joking around in the classroom. The male students wanted to be him, as cool as him. The female students thought he was so dreamy. Lizalia was her name, they called her Lissy. A blonde 7th grader, with green eyes and too much black eyeliner for her own good. She always wore red lipstick and her eyes were always masked behind the damned thick rimmed black eyeliner.
But he...he was like a damned sausage link. He was short, and had a beer belly, short arms and legs, and a mole in his face, in his left cheek. Why did the students thought he was so cool?
Manipulation is the answer. He knew how to control them and manipulate them. The first thing that he did, and always did, was to project himself as he wanted them to see him. "I only give you what you need, I only let you see what I want you to believe"; this was his motto, sang out loud in class, written on the blackboard, so revealing and yet misunderstood by the children, for none of them asked the meaning of that quote, not even an explanation.
Day by day Lissie bragged about her sexual encounters with the math teacher. The other girls listened, they were curious, and interested, because they wanted to experiment, they wanted to know how it felt. Lissy rounded them up for him. Instead of going to the slumber party their parents had agreed upon, they ended at the math teacher's house having a party of their own. The math teacher would also invite other male students, and other men and women from outside of town. To the students this was a model, a mentor, a master, and these activities would continue to take place until he retired.
The social construction of this pedophile lies in his role as a teacher. The institution of education is the most powerful institution, that has shaped society as a whole since children are bread, born, raised. The institution of education is a social institution that regulates the behavior of children for the sole purpose of creating order and ultimately control them for the benefit of a determined society.
The Math teacher was socially constructed by the Educational Institution in the same manner that he had been instructing his own students. By using pedagogy, psychology, sociology, sexuality, and many other educational influences provided by the Social Institution of Education, he had mastered the art of captivating and manipulating a specific crowd: Junior High school Student's (Ages 11 to 16). He had the total attention of the students for 2 hours everyday, 5 days a week for three years of their life. It was during those 2 hours that he had the opportunity to bend and shape their minds as he wanted. What he wanted was: to fulfill his sexual needs, desires and paraphilia's, and is exactly what he did.
Now, what about the students? Lizzie had gotten pregnant during the Christmas break and had dropped out of the seventh grade, a year later, there were rumors spreading around that she had A.I.D.S. and was never seen again. Before her disappearance Lizzie had kept going to the math teacher house parties, until the moment she had vanished.
The Math Teacher: The Social Construction of a Pedophile
The Math teacher, 35 years old, was single and lived in a 4 bedroom house in La Joya, a secluded neighborhood, with sufficient space between every land property. The space was so sufficient that not one neighbor ever suspected there were house parties every weekend and the comings and goings during the week, of mostly 7th graders (ages 11-12). He did send his mother to a convalescent home for seniors in the next town, therefore he lived at his mother's house. He had come out of college, straight back home, to work at the school which he attended during the seventh grade. He had tasted independence from the claws of his mother, and wanted desperately to feel it again once more. His mother was on his way, and he truly took care of everything.
A son of an alcoholic womanizer town mechanic father, and a welfare secretary/social worker mother, he was an only child, often mirroring his father's behavior around young 7 to 12 year old girls. "His cousins, his father would say, were beautiful and precious" It was his duty to admire them, protect them and love them unconditionally. An alcoholic delirious father was a handful for the whole family, especially his perfectionist mother. In one of many of a family gatherings, his father had gotten drunk in a game of wife swap. They had arrived with the kids: brothers, sisters, and friends. The kids were in their own area, watching movies, playing in the company of their older siblings, while their parents had their own area. As soon and the parents arrived, they had to deposit their car keys in a crystal bowl. At the end of the party, each person had to reach into the bowl of car keys and leave with the owner. It wasn't and option, it was mandatory. His father had done this many times before, his mother had participated along with him. Some of the women had gotten in his car along with their children, because they had to be driven back home. Along the way the children would sleep in the backseat innocently, oblivious to the unexpected traumatic event. They would be put to their beds, except for those who were worthy enough of his admiration, protection, and love.
To those, he would introduce them to his "loving" ways. Oddly enough these children would always follow him, cherish him and adore him, even more so than his own family. His wife was mistreated, abused, denigrated, pissed upon, cheated on, raped upon, by him, and ultimately herself, ended up a widow that last key exchange party. His father had gone with a woman much younger than him and with a pair of exotic long dark haired, dark eyes, fair skin, 6 year old twins. It was the first party this single mother had attended, and she had to leave with his father. They had arrived there earlier, and when his father, appeared, the twins immediately jumped on top of his lap, begging to be admired, protected, and loved by him. His father was enjoying the moment, and to the common eye, he even appeared as a good man, a good father, a good husband, a good community leader. His drunkenness was hidden behind a masquerade outside of the home, yet at home, he was a sociopath drunken alcoholic. People loved him, everyone knew him, and listened to what he had to say. "I tell you what you want to hear, and I give you what you think you want", this was his motto, carved into this math teacher's mind. This was his developmental stage, he was assimilating, accommodating, and going through different levels of learning, by doing, by observing, and by modeling this motto.
That night during the party he had noticed how his father operated, and he was jealous of him, for he wanted the attention of his cousins, but most of all, he wanted to compete for his father's attention, and acceptance (he wanted to be his father), and he hated him as well. He wanted to be that side of his father: the public side, the girl-loving side, not the husband, and certainly, not the father. Deep in his mind he knew that he would never marry a woman, nor he wanted to care for children. That was the last night he an his mother saw his father alive. He saw them all riding in the front seat of the car. The twins in the middle of them, the four of them all huddled up for no reason.
Before they had gone, the twins were playing with him. He was admiring, protecting, and loving them, the three mottos that his father had installed upon him. His father gave him a look of wonder and praise, for the first time in his life he was doing things right -he thought- "finally he's going to see what I'm capable of". His father bid him farewell with heavy approval, leaving him fully satisfied; and as he saw his father leave, he felt that the end was near, the twins eyes, dark and big revealed it to him.
The black sunshine mustang was riding in full throttle, its fluorescent eyes illuminating the dark road. The sound of the engine provided vibrating stimuli to the passengers, still all huddled up, closer than ever before. The dark haired twins wrapped themselves around the math teacher's father. His waist was occupied by the twins, their eyes now darker than ever before hypnotized him. He forgot about his destination, he forgot about his destiny. When the woman saw a bit of confusion in his eyes, she said gently: "drive away, let the road be your guide". He saw an endless road, never ending, never disparaging, always to be driven by him, restless, in an insomniac coma. He disappeared into a road of nothingness, bitterly facing his end in the land of the living, entering another stratosphere of delusions that awaited him. In four lower words he dwelled from that moment onward: Hell, Animality, Hunger and Anger, all forever encompassing, enveloping him, indubitably making him feel everything his victims felt.
The Math teacher was more than happy to know about his father's disappearance. His mother seemed more at ease, she was free of his alcoholism, sadism and vices. She could save more money, and the money that she had hidden over the years was used towards his college tuition. After his father's disappearance his mother never remarried, she was ill most of the time, but kept on working until her retirement. He learned after his college graduation that his mother had dementia due to syphilis. This prompted him to take extreme measures: he arranged for her to vacate her home and live in a convalescent home for seniors until her last days.
He was free again from her fully, he was free to pursue any pleasures he deemed fit. He remembered during his college years how many girls he had savored, all of them much younger than him. His methods were to cruise around high schools and junior high schools outside of his living area. He always had nice automobiles, these were crucial for the first stage: impressing and image of coolness upon young girls. He staked the schools, he stalked the girls, observed and analyzed their behavior in search for a troubled teen, preferably with low self esteem, attractive and most of all, a virgin. He made exceptions all the time, he had to, a virgin teenage girl was hard to find. His exceptions were extreme, for he took upon himself to oblige the girls to test themselves for STD's, and other diseases. He wanted to keep himself clean, and that, he did very well. He always thought he was performing a public duty, breaking girls, teaching them how to be women, revealing the dark secrets that they desperately desired, the dark secrets he need to press upon them.
During his college years he had many classmates, yet he never engaged in a relationship with any college women. He portrayed an image of academic excellence, always using that as an excuse for not having a "girlfriend". He kept his secret safe, no one knew his sexual paraphilia's.
Looking back upon the story of his life, he felt complete, accomplished and with a great sense of peace. He is in his comfort zone, and no one will escape his twisting desires.
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Thursday, March 22, 2012
Who Am I?
Who Am I?
I often ask myself this question, i want to know what kind of woman I have become.
When I look at myself in the mirror, I see that mischevious girl from sixth grade.
I am still innocent,
I am still untouchable,
I am still pure,
I am the woman i want to be.
To Love and to know,
this is what matters the most.
Myself, my whole,
i can feel i have no soul.
I get interrupted and i am no more...
I often ask myself this question, i want to know what kind of woman I have become.
When I look at myself in the mirror, I see that mischevious girl from sixth grade.
I am still innocent,
I am still untouchable,
I am still pure,
I am the woman i want to be.
To Love and to know,
this is what matters the most.
Myself, my whole,
i can feel i have no soul.
I get interrupted and i am no more...
Friday, December 30, 2011
Promiscuidad
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Sobre la promiscuidad
¿Qué es la promiscuidad y por que las personas son promiscuas?
La promiscuidad es el acto de sostener relaciones sexuales activas con varias personas. Una persona promiscua es aquella que tiene más de una pareja sexual. En la persona promiscua el disfrute sexual se puede ver afectado a causa del amplio número de parejas sexuales que esta sostenga. Estas personas también se arriesgan a contraer enfermedades de transmisión sexual. La ignorancia de pensar que los profilácticos son la salvación de las enfermedades sexuales ha llevado a las personas a lanzarse ciegamente en relaciones sexuales sin pensar en las consecuencias.
Hay enfermedades de transmisión sexual que se transmiten a pesar del uso de profilácticos/condones, tales como:
Verrugas genitales
Hongo vaginal
Ladilla/pulga genital
Herpes
Estas enfermedades se trasmiten por el roce de la piel o sexo buco genital.
Si bien es cierto que el ser humano siempre se ha dedicado a evitar la monogamia, en este siglo, no debe haber excusas para ser monógamo. La clave está en escoger una sola pareja sexual con la cual se puedan hacer realidad las fantasías sexuales. Lamentablemente hemos visto como los hombres y las mujeres confían unos en otros hasta verse infectados con enfermedades venéreas.
El tema de la confianza es uno delicado. ¿Cómo confiar en otro ser humano capaz de mentir igual que tú mismo/a? No podemos confiar en nadie, pues todas las personas terminan traicionándose a sí mismos. Si una persona se traiciona a si mismo/a es capaz de traicionar a cualquier ser humano. ¿En cuantas ocasiones hemos arriesgado nuestra vida confiando en lo que la otra persona dice? Solo para descubrir que las mentiras de la persona en quien confiaste tu vida te han llevado al abismo de una enfermedad incurable.
¿Cuál es el precio de tu goce sexual? ¿Cuán intenso es tu deseo de gratificación inmediata? ¿Eres capaz de acostarte con la primera persona que te sonríe y te jura que no tiene enfermedades, a sabiendas que esa persona practica la promiscuidad?
Para contestar estas preguntas debes inspeccionar tu vida. Realizar que nadie puede brindarte la felicidad, solo tú eres responsable de hacerte feliz. Analiza la última relación sexual que tuviste y piensa si valió la pena arriesgarlo todo por unos minutos de pseudo placer.
Es una realidad que la mayoría de los hombres promiscuos buscan acostarse con muchas mujeres por que no pueden satisfacer solo a una. Este es su mecanismo de defensa para evadir su mísera impotencia, no solo sexual, sino mental. La gran mayoría de estos hombres no son capaces de sostener relaciones sentimentales íntimas sexuales exitosas. Se cierran a esta posibilidad al dedicarse a la “conquista” de varias mujeres, sin poder a penas dedicarse a sí mismos.
Conócete a ti mismo/a debería ser el aforismo principal del ser humano. Pero lamentablemente muchas personas no lo practican en acción. Para conocerte a ti mismo/a debes invertir tiempo en ti. Si inviertes tu tiempo en varias parejas sexuales, entonces, ¿qué tiempo tienes para ti?
¿Acaso no te cansas de las mismas mentiras?
La persona que se dedica a la promiscuidad se odia a sí misma. Es incapaz de satisfacer sexualmente a una sola persona y a menudo tiene trastornos psicosexuales. Estas personas son mentirosas compulsivas, buscan realzar su sentido de autoestima, o al menos de aventura a través del riesgo que conlleva las relaciones sexuales con más de una persona.
Esta es la persona que clama a viva voz: “¡soy libre y nadie me va amarrar!” pero a la vez están controlados por sus propios deseos putrefactos que los llevan a actuar sexualmente irresponsables. Estas son las personas que dicen, estar en busca del placer, pero cuando tienen la oportunidad de sentirlo, son incapaces de experimentarlo, pues ya se han desensibilizado ante los sentimientos de placer sexual. Estas son las personas que buscan corromper a la mujer/hombre monógamo/a, con la intención de contagiarles con su enfermedad. Su enfermedad es mental: es la adicción al sexo a través de la promiscuidad.
Es de suma importancia entender que las personas promiscuas tienen la falsa creencia de que están disfrutando del sexo a plenitud, cuando en realidad no logran alcanzar el clímax y el orgasmo de manera saludable. Estas personas son reprimidas sexualmente y disfrazan su ineptitud sexual con tretas artificiosas imperceptibles para el ojo común.
¿Qué hacer o cual es la solución?
Entendemos que el uso de los profilácticos/condones reduce el riesgo de contraer algunas enfermedades sexuales, sin embargo no es 100% seguro. Existen contraceptivos para evitar tener hijos y también el aborto es una opción. Pero sobre todo antes de sufrir las consecuencias de tus actos debes tomar decisiones de manera racional.
¿Realmente conoces a la mujer/hombre con quien sostienes relaciones sexuales?
¿Qué garantía tienes de que esa persona no está haciendo lo mismo que tú- mintiendo frenéticamente para acostarte con cuanta escoria se atraviesa en tu camino?
En conclusión: escoge una sola pareja sexual, comparte con esta tus fantasías, exploración y placer, pero sobretodo, evita convertirte en parte de las estadísticas de promiscuos/as. Es más fácil escoger una pareja sexual que combatir las enfermedades de transmisión sexual que puedes sufrir a causa de tu estupidez. Es tiempo de ser responsable contigo mismo/a.
Thursday, December 29, 2011
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Mujer: Al menos ya se el tipo de hombre con el que quiero estar. No es fácil decidirse por lo que uno de verdad desea. Pero estoy tranquila porque se lo que necesito
Hombre: Y mirando hacia adelante:
¿qué es lo que deseas, lo que te gusta y lo que necesitas?
¿qué es lo que deseas, lo que te gusta y lo que necesitas?
No pretendo que leas esta respuesta. No pretendo que intentes entenderla. Muchos hombres no la entienden. Cuando la leen se alejan de mi. Piensan que es una manera de atacarles su “vanidad” o su “autoestima”, pero más que eso, en su realización breve de su mísera existencia, saben que yo he descubierto qué tipo de personalidad yace bajo su máscara perfectamente colocada. Son estos hombres los que se venden una y otra vez como personas inteligentes, pero en realidad son parásitos, llenos de envidia. Una mujer libre como yo, emancipada intelectualmente aspira a obtener logros no tan solo educacionales y profesionales, sino artísticos, familiares y sobre todo en el ámbito personal tener éxito en las relaciones intimas, que están sean mejores que las relaciones que las personas comunes sostienen.
Deseo lo imposible. Conocer alguien como yo. Que no se limite. Que sea abierto en todo el sentido de la palabra, que sea libre intelectualmente. Una persona libre/emancipada intelectualmente es libre sexualmente y capaz de hacerlo todo o al menos intentarlo todo aunque sea una vez.
Es importante para mí, como mujer emancipada intelectualmente:
· Un hombre que no se odie a sí mismo.
· Un hombre que no trate de realzar su autoestima por medio de sus aventuras sexuales.
· Un hombre que esté consciente de que el sexo es el efecto de una expresión que tiene el valor que yo le doy o que el mismo le dé.
· Un hombre que realice que la riqueza material y el dinero son productos de raíces intelectuales (producto de estudios/ educación).
· Un hombre que entienda que el sexo no es una capacidad física independiente de su mente, sus decisiones y su código de valores.
· Un hombre lo suficientemente intelectual e inteligente como para entender que el amor no es ciego, que entienda que su cuerpo no crea el deseo, que comprenda que ese deseo no toma las decisiones por él.
· Un hombre que realice que su decisión sexual es la suma de todas sus convicciones fundamentales.
1. He observado lo que los hombres encuentran atractivo sexualmente y partiendo de sus intereses y deseos, puedo decirles su filosofía de vida completa.
2. He observado las mujeres con la que esos hombres se acuestan y partiendo de esa observación puedo decirles como ellos se autoevalúan.
Son estos hombres los que practican la corrupción de la virtud (son despreocupados). Para estos hombres el sexo es el acto más egoísta de todos los actos-el acto sexual que ellos hacen es para su propio gozo y solo piensan en tratar de hacer un acto de caridad sexual. Pero estos hombres no tienen la capacidad de comprender que estos actos no son posibles sin la degradación de la persona a la cual le están haciendo el favor. Solo piensan en su auto-exaltación, se sienten confiados al verse deseados y ven ese deseo como valor. Estos hombres siempre se sentirán atraídos por mujeres que reflejen la visión profunda de sí mismos. Estos hombres siempre se sentirán atraídos hacia la mujer que se rinda y le permita a él la experiencia de falsificar su propio sentido de autoestima.
El hombre que esté orgulloso y seguro de su propio valor:
1. Deseara la mujer más alta.
2. La más grande que pueda conseguir.
3. Es la mujer que el admirará.
4. Será la más fuerte.
5. La más difícil de conquistar.
6. Esta mujer será como él, una heroína intelectual exitosa y no una puta sin cerebro.
Un hombre así no buscara ganar su valor, sino expresarlo. Para este hombre no hay conflictos entre los estándares mentales y los deseos del cuerpo (Brennan 2001).
El hombre que se ha convencido a sí mismo de su propia invalidez y bajeza siempre se verá atraído hacia la mujer que él en realidad odia:
1. porque ella reflejara el secreto de sí mismo,
2. ella lo liberara de esa realidad objetiva que ha sido un fraude en su vida,
3. ella le dará un momento de ilusión: de lo que es el valor que él piensa de sí mismo y un escape momentáneo del código moral que lo maldice.
He observado el caos horrible que el hombre hace de su vida sexual. He observado todas sus contradicciones, las cuales este dice son parte de su filosofía moral (Aristóteles, 1967)- una procede de la otra: su vida sexual es producto de sus contradicciones.
¿Qué es el amor?
El amor es la respuesta de nuestros valores más altos y no puede ser nada más. (El valor que nosotros tenemos o cuanto valemos)
Pero el hombre corrompe sus propios valores y su propia visión de existencia, profesa que:
1. El amor no es un acto de auto-placer sino de auto-negación.
2. Que la virtud consiste en cogerle pena a los demás, tener debilidad, o sacrificarse, en lugar de que consista en orgullo y valor propio.
3. Que el amor más noble nace de: la caridad y no de la admiración, en respuesta a las fallas y no al valor de la persona.
Es por esta razón que los hombres y las mujeres se parten en dos, en una disonancia cognoscitiva (Festinger, 1957) que no tiene solución. Cuando llegan a este punto en su vida (en el caso del hombre, pero se aplica a la mujer también):
1. Su cuerpo no le obedecerá y no responderá.
2. Su cuerpo le hará impotente hacia la mujer que él le profese su amor
3. Se arrastrará hasta buscar el tipo más bajo de mujer que pueda encontrar: la mujer que a simple vista es hermosa físicamente (The trophy wife- pues ha hecho de su físico una fuente de ingreso, admiración y recepción de enfermedades) pero que aún no se ha emancipado intelectualmente.
4. Su cuerpo siempre seguirá la última lógica de sus convicciones más profundas.
Estos hombres creen que las faltas en ellos mismos son valores (el valor que se supone tengan, o cuánto valen). Así maldicen su propia existencia como malévola, atrayendo siempre el mal (Rand, 1980). Pero estos hombres ni realizan que se han maldecido a sí mismos pues lo han hecho de una manera imperceptible.
La depravación que sienten es lo único merecedor de su disfrute. Han logrado igualar la virtud con el dolor y han llegado a sentir que el vicio es el único placer.
Para racionalizar y justificar sus actos, sus conductas y sus preferencias…
1. Gritan que su cuerpo tiene deseos viciosos los cuales no pueden controlar.
2. Gritan que el sexo es un pecado.
3. Dicen que el verdadero amor es una emoción pura del espíritu.
Pero entonces se preguntan amargamente por que el amor no les trae nada más que aburrimiento y porque el sexo para ellos es un acto de vergüenza. (En el hombre este acto de vergüenza, según Álvarez, 1999, se refleja en la conducta sexual reprimida y egoísta en donde éste, a simple vista demuestra características de alienación, se despreocupa por su pareja sexual, se concentra en sus deseos pero a la vez es incapaz de lograr alcanzar placer a plenitud)
Solo el hombre que se exalta en la pureza del amor (al decir que el amor es una emoción pura del espíritu) sin ningún tipo de deseo (pues su deseo es producto de su cuerpo y no de su mente) es capaz de depravarse (en un acto de vergüenza sexual, según Álvarez, 1999) para el deseo de no sentir amor (no es capaz de entender que el amor no es una emoción pura del espíritu, sino la respuesta de nuestros valores más altos).
Los seres humanos están divididos por la misma mitad. En su hipocresía unos odian la riqueza material, el dinero, el éxito de la producción de este…
Estas personas son idealistas- no tienen emociones definidas para el significado de su existencia y sus virtudes.
Estas personas idealistas son:
1. Las que lloran desesperadamente por que no pueden sentir nada por la mujer que respetan.
2. A la vez se sienten atados a una pasión irresistible por una mujerzuela de la calle; una mujer cualquiera es y puede variar entre:
a. una estudiante universitaria que esconde su promedio de C para acostarse indiscriminadamente con cuanto hombre la mire,
b. una mujer que vive para sacarle el dinero a los hombres,
c. una mujer que a pesar de ser hermosa físicamente en su mísero exterior, continua acostándose con hombres indiscriminadamente para realzar su autoestima,
d. una mujer que usa su apariencia física como una manera de conseguir dinero o casamiento,
e. una mujer que se dedica a tener hijos de distintos hombres con el fin de beneficiarse económicamente,
f. una mujer que seduce a hombres menores de edad (mucho menores que ella) con el fin de arruinarles su vida.
Esa es la mujerzuela barata parasitaria y ese es el hombre idealista que se siente atraído hacia esta.
Otro tipo de hombre es:
El tipo de hombre práctico= el hombre que odia:
1. los principios,
2. las abstracciones,
3. el arte,
4. la filosofía
5. y los odia en su propia mente, pero no lo revela de inmediato, más bien se esconde tras ellos para atraer a las personas.
El hombre práctico piensa que:
El obtener objetos materiales es la meta más importante de su existencia. Para este, la mujer es un objeto material que debe obtener.
Espera que se le brinde el placer y no es capaz de entender la fuente del origen del placer.
Se pregunta porque mientras más tiene, menos siente.
Es el hombre que se pasa la mayor parte de su vida invirtiendo su tiempo corriendo tras las mujeres, engañado una a una, haciéndoles creer que son especiales, utilizándolas a su antojo, sin poder en realidad satisfacer ni tan siquiera solo a una.
Es un fraude no doble, sino triple el que penetra en él.
Observando a este hombre…él no admitirá su necesidad de autoestima, pues le escupe en la cara a este concepto como código moral.
Siente que su propia inferioridad viene de la creencia de que él es un pedazo de carne.
Nunca lo admitirá pero sabe que el sexo es una expresión física de los atributos y valores personales, por esta razón trata de destruir a las personas que tienen más valor que él.
Este hombre práctico trata…por medio de movimientos sin efecto, de obtener lo que se supone sea su causa.
Este trata de ganar el sentido de su valor propio y de la mujer que se rinda ante él.
Pero olvida que la mujer que el escogió carece de carácter, de juicio de estándares y de valores (no tiene valor y no vale nada igual que él).
Este hombre se dice así mismo: que lo único que le interesa es el aspecto físico del placer- PERO HE OBSERVADO COMO…se cansa de las mujeres en semanas o en una noche, odia a las prostitutas profesionales (mujeres “hermosas” que este escoge pero que siempre exigen sutilmente se les pague con dinero, salidas, prendas, regalos, o simplemente tiempo).
Este hombre adora imaginarse que esta seduciendo a una mujer virtuosa que a su vez haga una gran excepción para su beneficio propio.
Este es el sentimiento de logro que busca y que sin duda nunca encontrará.
¿Qué gloria puede haber en la conquista de un cuerpo sin mente propia?
Aquí está el mujeriego: el hombre práctico, el hombre común que no ha logrado emanciparse intelectualmente.
La mujer que se pasa corriendo detrás de los hombres, es quien está tras la misma cosa que el hombre busca y sin duda vive su vida sin propósito fundamental, al igual que el hombre a quien escoge.
Esta mujer está tras el deseo de ganar por su propio valor (lo que ella piensa que vale) el puntaje de la fama que envuelve al hombre a quien conquista.
Aquí el único detalle es el siguiente: esta mujer es mas falsa que el hombre. El valor que ella busca ni tan siquiera es un hecho actual, es más bien una impresión que quiere darles a otras mujeres con la intención de causar envidia en ellas.
¿Qué es lo que esta mujer desea, sin pretender lo esperado? Sabe lo que le espera y se reduce a continuar el mismo ciclo.
La falsedad se esconde en la naturaleza de sus deseos. Estas mujeres desean acostarse con hombres por el mero hecho de hacerlo. No son capaces de ser reales ni mucho menos honestas. Lo que desean es que se les alimente su vanidad y el hombre práctico/mujeriego/hombre común sabe muy bien cómo alimentar a este tipo de mujer.
Referencias:
Álvarez, G. (1999). Sexoterapia Integral. México: Editorial El Manual Moderno.
Aristóteles (1967). Obras. España: Aguilar.
Brennan, J. F. (2001). Historia y Psicologia. México: Prentice Hall.
Festinger, L. (1957). A Theory of Cognitive Dissonance. NJ: Stanford University Press.
Rand, A. (1980). Atlas Shrugged. New York: Random House.
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